Lately, I’ve been filling up my Amazon cart with all sorts of things, but when I saw the total today, I couldn’t bring myself to check out. I questioned why I even wanted some of these items. Is that $50 hair scrub really going to make a difference, or am I just trying to keep up because I saw it recommended by my favorite blogger?
Sometimes, I feel like I’m in a race to keep up with everyone around me who seems to be moving on to bigger and better things. I watch others upgrade their lives and feel like I’m lagging behind. Honestly, I still struggle with the pressure to measure up and not feel left out. This post feels more vulnerable because I’m grappling with these feelings of trying to keep up with the Joneses.
Take my Honda HR-V, for example. It’s been a reliable companion for nine years. Sometimes, I catch myself daydreaming about upgrading to a sleek Mercedes. Who wouldn’t want that? Sure, I could afford a “nicer car,” but is it a wise financial decision? Not really. Is it even necessary? Definitely not.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve worked hard to resist the urge to keep up with the Joneses. I’m usually pretty good at jotting down what I’m grateful for each night, reminding myself of all the positives in my life. Yet, there are still moments when I think, “Why not splurge? I can afford it.” In those moments, I have to ground myself: my car is reliable, my jeans fit comfortably, and I’m healthy and strong. I don’t need the latest gadget or trendy item.
It’s tough in today’s world where it feels like if you’re not up with the latest trends, designers, and vacations, you’re somehow falling behind. But I’m learning that true happiness comes from appreciating what I have and being content with my own journey, not from the fleeting thrill of new purchases.
When I feel discontent, I remind myself to focus on the bigger picture and my long-term financial goals. I ask myself why I’m feeling this way: Is it time to limit my social media use, reassess my circle of friends and family, or address something deeper making me feel like what I have isn’t enough?
At the end of the day, I have a roof over my head, food on the table, and a stable job. There’s really nothing materialistic I need to make my life better. I’m surrounded by friends and family who love me, and my relationships are fulfilling.
As someone in their twenties, I’m focused on building a solid financial foundation. Right now, it’s about investing wisely and balancing assets and liabilities. I genuinely believe that our twenties are the perfect time to build good financial habits, create a budget, and set ourselves up for future success.
All that being said, it’s still tough. I’m human, and those feelings of wanting more or feeling behind do come up from time to time- like today.
I’m thinking of putting together a post on basic, common-sense money moves every woman in her twenties should consider. Let me know if you’d like to hear more!